Learning to drive at 39

  • Maza85's Avatar
    Hi so I'm after a bit of advice/guidance. I started learning to drive again last year after becoming a mum. Didn't get with my first instructor but found another instructor who is patience and encouraging. Due to the back log of tests my instructor adviced to book the test and if I was ready we could move it. I'm now 6 weeks away had my 1st mock test and it went terrible. I made so many mistakes. My instructor said not to worry it is common with when you start independent driving as you aren't having someone helping you. The instructor has said we will carry on working on things and make a decision in a couple of weeks on whether to move the test. I know if I do need to move it that would be the right move in the long run but just not feeling great. I really want to pass my test as it would make my life as a mum so much easier but I'm just nervous that I can't do it. I have starting to go out in my own car but I have limited spare time between work and looking after my child. Also when I do go out my child also comes as we don't have people to watch her. Any advice or gudiance would be apperciated.
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  • ElCapitain's Avatar
    @Maza85 I learned to drive at 27, shortly after my son was born.

    I took lots of mock tests with my instructor and failed every single one (for different reasons). But, when it came to my test, somehow i managed to put it all together and passed first time with only 2 minors.

    I believe that I failed the mock tests because I was often trying to predict what the next thing I was going to be asked to do, rather than concentrating on just driving the car.

    Bottom line, I found that it was more down to my confidence than my ability.

    I'm sure you'll be able to pass comfortably, but sometimes, our nerves trip us up. Make the decision that is right for you, and don't be too hard on yourself if things don't go perfectly. You deserve credit for learning a new skill at 39.
  • Drivingforfun's Avatar
    I would say practice not only makes perfect but also brings confidence, which is important. Do you have someone who is a qualified driver - a friend or relative - who can just sit in the passenger seat with you and take you out for the odd drive?

    I learnt to drive at several years older than 17 as well. What I think seriously helped me was having parents who had a car for me to use and just going out for what would be a routine drive whenever they needed to go out. I would drive them to the shops or to relatives houses etc. Probably did 1000 miles with my parents on top of the driving lessons with an instructor.
  • Mark07's Avatar
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    Hi @Maza85,

    How are you getting on?

    Based on your experience, is there anything you'd recommend for other learners?

    Thanks,
    Mark.

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  • Maza85's Avatar
    @Maza85 I learned to drive at 27, shortly after my son was born.

    I took lots of mock tests with my instructor and failed every single one (for different reasons). But, when it came to my test, somehow i managed to put it all together and passed first time with only 2 minors.

    I believe that I failed the mock tests because I was often trying to predict what the next thing I was going to be asked to do, rather than concentrating on just driving the car.

    Bottom line, I found that it was more down to my confidence than my ability.

    I'm sure you'll be able to pass comfortably, but sometimes, our nerves trip us up. Make the decision that is right for you, and don't be too hard on yourself if things don't go perfectly. You deserve credit for learning a new skill at 39.
    Hi thanks for the advice. I am finding my confidence is improving still making errors but I am starting to believe I will get there.
  • Maza85's Avatar
    I would say practice not only makes perfect but also brings confidence, which is important. Do you have someone who is a qualified driver - a friend or relative - who can just sit in the passenger seat with you and take you out for the odd drive?

    I learnt to drive at several years older than 17 as well. What I think seriously helped me was having parents who had a car for me to use and just going out for what would be a routine drive whenever they needed to go out. I would drive them to the shops or to relatives houses etc. Probably did 1000 miles with my parents on top of the driving lessons with an instructor.
    Hi thanks for the reply/advice. My partner has been coming out with me as well as his partner on my non working days which I'm finding is helping. I wouldn't say I'm there yet but I am finding my confidence is improving.
  • Maza85's Avatar
    Hi @Maza85,

    How are you getting on?

    Based on your experience, is there anything you'd recommend for other learners?
    Hi thanks for the reply. I'm doing ok and starting to build my confidence up. I have done some more mock tests and although not passed them made a lot less errors. I would just recommend practicing as much as you can. I can't get out as much as I would like to as I'm juggling between work, looking after my daughter and general life chores but have been going out with my partner on weekends and had his parents come over on my non working days and it has helped build my confience up and also get back out there espically after a not so great drive so I'm not dwelling/over thinking mistakes